Actualize your dream

“While I as a south Indian will have my dinner, I will also keep the barter ready for the dosa for the next day’s breakfast”, quipped a friend. And that is what is called planning.

If you have have wishes unfulfilled, dreams not yet realized and if that frustrates you, then you should keep your barter ready for the tomorrow that comes your way.

So, let me ask you. What dreams have you? Become stinking rich, be powerful, enjoy fame and attention, possess a great physique, set a world record or get up early for that morning walk?

What ever your dreams be, whatever your wishes are, you need to start some where, some time soon, to work on getting them become real.

Say for instance, your dream is to found a great institution of learning. Then you should ask your self what have you done to actualize it?

Have you contacted a few school owners to understand how they went about setting up their schools?

Have you discussed with your friends to find out what is there expectation from a great place of learning?

Do you follow the latest regulations and reforms happening in the field?

Or at least have you thought about the best players in the market?

Do not waste your precious time to act by sitting on the fence.

Do not be afraid of failures.

Remember no body can take away your learning in the event of your failure.

Here’s what I learnt.

# Start somewhere, anywhere, but start.

Make your to do list, meet up with like-minded people, dream, write your idea down, talk about it with passion and enthusiasm and the universe helps you begin your journey towards your goal.

# Spend time visualizing you achieving your goal.

Sit back and dream. Yes live your dream in your dream. Live it out. Relish being where you want the way you want with who ever you want in your head. As Vivekananda said, ” Take up idea, make that idea your life- think of it, dream of it. Live on it” and the idea or the dream is a reality.

# Chunk your grand wish into small palatable pieces.

Break up your goal into tiny little tasks to be done on a daily basis. Let me tell you here, that it is my ambition to become a writer that got me to blogging. As I put up my blogs, I know I am getting there sooner or later. And it helps to know that I am getting better at writing by the day:-)

# Commit on a daily basis

Be committed to your goal by checking whether you are on track. The chunking of your larger goal is what you should help you to stay committed. Don’t forget to compliment yourself on doing it. May be you can go out with yourself to a movie or coffee date.

# Respect the fact that time is a limited commodity

When we realize that life and time itself is a limited commodity, our priorities become clearer and we do sort of start working towards them. For instance, if you are aiming to get on to that favorite television show of yours, your time is certainly running out. If you are planning to get fit and then look around for your partner, well, seriously, fitness is not something that deserves to be kept for another day.

# Stay focused but be relaxed

No journey to greatness can be made possible without the right mindset. Stay on track but enjoy your journey. Don’t get stressed out because your time in the sun is not right now. And don’t worry that some body else is basking in glory.

Believe me, your great time is on its way!

Here is to actualizing your dream, three cheers!

What are you waiting for?

Go, get going!!!

 

 

 

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It Must Be Difficult

I know it must be difficult to trust yourself every time.

It must be difficult to go just by what you know.

It must be difficult to not have a say in what happens around

It must be difficult to not have a penny in your pocket.

It must be difficult to be accused, taunted and teased.

It must be difficult to know that your value has plunged to the lowest of the low.

It must be difficult to be your own company.

It must be difficult not to know what is right any more.

It must be difficult to find your smile again and your strength and your hope.

It must be difficult to find yourself not counted again and again.

Yet, it is not more difficult than not standing up for yourself

And beginning to listen to yourself, to remember your strengths and loving your company.

It is not more difficult than not being able to respect who you are and what you stand for.

It is not more difficult than not trying to change or a lifting a finger to alter your destiny.

Because, friend, destiny is the script you write for yourself.

Get up, get going, the forest will clear, a new path will appear.

Trust me, been there,done that too:-) Cheers!

A Sample 2 Minute Speech

Here are three simple things to remember while giving a speech.

  • Tell the audience what you are going to tell them.
  • Tell them.
  • Tell them what you told them.

Simple! right! that’s just the way to present a speech that lasts for 2 minutes. Does it look difficult? It definitely is not.

To make an impact in all of 2 minutes or more all you need to do is to think of 3 valid points related to your topic.

Again any topic you are given to speak on will have three sides. What are those?

The first is taking a stand for the topic. ‘For’ meaning arguing  for or presenting the positive aspects of the topic given.

The second is to take a stand against the topic and highlight all the negative aspects of the given topic.

The third would be to go neutral and present a balanced view of the topic given to you.

In general most speakers would try to present the positive aspects  of the given topic and then touch upon a few negatives before winding in a neutral tone. How you go about presenting your views depends entirely on your outlook or the context in which you present your speech.

Your ability to add meaningful quotes, anecdotes, examples, data will further add to the quality and convincing ability of your speech. A call to action will ensure that your listeners will have a definite take away from your speech and will most probably recall it and follow it up with some action later.

For example let’s take the topic “Rain”.

As you can see, I have kept it very simple. 3 main points with a little elaboration. 1 call to action and conclusion and this speech is mostly positive in tone.

Introduction: One of my most favorite memories that I have of rain ,is walking back home with my friends, holding an umbrella, getting all wet and having fun while trying to splash muddy water at each other. Piping hot pakodas and a hot cup of tea always made rains a fun time.

Point 1:Rain is beautiful. Watching the rain fall on to ground and fill the land is a refreshing sight. Have you ever smelt the fragrance of the first drops of rain? Heavenly…that is. Great sleep, excellent food and the comfort of home is all the more special during heavy rains.

Point 2:Rain is nourishing. Yes, it is. It is the rain that fills our streams, ponds and rivers. For the farmers, the rain is nothing less than a boon. In our country even to this day, farmers depend on natural sources of water and rain is there fore much awaited. You would have read in the news papers of how farmers pray for rains and celebrate its arrival with gusto. Scenes from the film Lagaan comes to my mind when I think of the heroic welcome given to rain.

Point 3: Rain is essential for our survival on the planet. The survival of life on the planet depends on the availability of drinking water and its the rain that brings this much valuable resource. Across the countries and the continents there is an increasing awareness about the need to preserve water. This is because of a dangerous life threatening phenomena called ‘drought’ resulting in water scarcity across the planet. Are you doing your bit to conserve water? It is important that while we enjoy the rain, we should also be aware of preserving it for future. Have you ever thought of how the animals survive in the forests with no rain, no access to other sources of water?

Call to action:There are a few things that each one of us can do  to make our little contributions to conserving water. Like stopping wastage of tap water, using rain water harvesting, taking care not to pollute water resources like lakes, ponds and rivers can help us ward off the dangers of water scarcity. Infact, keeping  a bowl of fresh water on the terrace for the birds to quench the thirst every day would be a small but useful contribution to mitigate scarcity of water for birds.

Conclusion: Water then is the very essence of life. It is nothing but the heavenly ‘manna’, a gift to be preserved and used judiciously. Thank you.

* Pakodas- Indian snacks

 

Of Self Worth

It’s interesting that I should be talking about self worth, especially because I was one of those people who had a rather low level of self worth, i.e. until recently.

Time,friends, is a great teacher and with life turning the table around I really did not have to attend any special class to learn about self worth.

So, what is self-worth? Self-worth is how you look at yourself, what you feel about your value and how happy or convinced you are about ‘who you are’.

Expectations from the family, the society, imposing of rigid rules and regulations can usually kill the self worth an individual has. Remember, children are usually full of high self worth.

As a child you too was someone who was less abashed about who you are, it is possible that you as a kid could dance or sing or imagine yourself to be as great as you ever wanted to be.

What changed then? Some harsh comments, a few unpleasant experiences might have led you to believe that you are not as special as you used to be any more.

Elizabeth Lesser, in her highly engaging Ted Talk, reveals what she learnt as a home – birth mid wife, one of the many careers she donned.

” Each one of us come to the universe with an unapologetic self worth”, she says. As the baby born with a very high sense of self worth and purpose grows up, the forces of the society, expectations of gender, class, religion, family,education etc. influence the ‘pre-baby’ to fill his/her mind with doubt, low self-esteem and everything else which significantly dilutes its value in its own eyes.

So how do we improve our sense of self worth?

Well, appreciate yourself. Celebrate the small successes of life.

Be giving. When you give something to someone in terms of time, effort or material things, your self worth automatically improves.

Invest in yourself. Spend some time learning something new. A new language, a new skill, a new sport. Try and engage yourself in activities that challenge you and relish the small,significant progress you make.

Sit by yourself. Spend time with yourself. Go for walks, travel alone, read a book, cook something special for yourself try to treat yourself as a significant somebody.

Exercise. Physical activities improve our self worth. Engage yourself a physical activity of some sort. Play some games. Join a sports club or just go around tossing the foot ball in your back yard. Doesn’t matter.

Be kind to yourself. Don’t spoil your success by being your harshest critic. It is easy for us to appreciate and acknowledge the goodness in others than in ourselves. So learn to be kind to yourself.

Positive body postures. Practice assertive and more open body postures and gestures. Your body will influence your mind to be more positive.

Finally write if you can or record small positive statements for yourself. You could also keep a journal. Writing about what you have done and how you intend to go about life in general gives you a purpose and boosts your self worth.

Are you wondering how much of self worth is too much? When self worth borders on arrogance it is indeed too much. Try to stay modest yet confident.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Knowing that I can

Having known what I can

I see no reason now to think why I can’t

When there are times to show

How I did and what

Even if it was nothing great

Nor anything unusual

Yet there it was crystal clear

To my eyes if to no one else.

The last time I did what I did and how

When time stood still

And a great rage filled within

Yet I stood my stand

Proved a point, to me, if to no body else

Yet knowing now what I can

I surely have no reason to think that I can’t

So, here it goes to the doer in me

Cheers again, go on, go ahead

And time shall tell…

(To move, to pack, to start afresh a story too old, yet new!)

Did I tell you the truth?

Did I tell you the truth

of what I wanted to say?

I guess I didn’t

as usual, looking at you

pouring your eyes into the book

or maybe I thought it better not to say

because it wouldn’t matter to you either ways.

so I held my tongue

and you locked your ears.

Some words are said in silence too

and heard without having to listen

but that’s a different story

and you could always choose what to hear.

My truth could just be your false, friend

so its better to keep it to myself

and wait for time to tell…

And she will tell.

 

Coz you are born, you gotta stay

Now that you are born

you got to stay long

till at least you are called

so go on

but, yes, find a way

if you may

to stop, to think, to ponder

on what brings you here

was it mere accident

or was there a plan

or is it for you to find

a path and  leave a trail.

If you could sit down for a while

perhaps the universe would lean in to whisper

or may be the breeze could be your messenger

or the sun rays dancing in through your window

or the green grass gracing the meadows.

May be you are in a tearing hurry

and I would be wrong to stop you by

but still, I would say

try find a way

if you may

to know what brings you here

who you met and who you did not.

Maybe I could help

so call me sometimes 🙂

 

Cry of the Soul

Why do the souls cry?

Why do they bleed?

Is it love or hatred?

Is the need to hold or to be held?

Is it the presence of love or its absence?

Is it me or my deed?

Is it the call to live or the call to die?

Is it for now , for tomorrow or for ever more?

Why do the souls cry?

Why do they bleed?

Experiencing existence

While existence from birth to death is a given, to experience living, to experience existence is a choice one has to make.

It is not long since I became aware about experiencing existence but ever since I did, life has become an enjoyable journey of sorrows and joys in equal, some times unequal parts.

The other day while I was out for a morning walk in the premises of the pristine surroundings of Presidency University, Yelahanka, I realized for the first time in my life the thrill of inhaling fresh air. Yes, breathing to me became an experience and each day I look forward to the mornings so that I can take in wisps of that fresh morning air.

I also realized in the process of how rarely I think about this intake and exhaling of air. The first day I remember, how, impressed by the surroundings I had sat down to do pranayama and was stuck by a feeling of cool air filling my lungs, clear, pure and fresh. And when I exhaled I felt that the tip of  my nostrils were burning, literally.

I couldn’t take this experience off my mind for a long time. It was to me like pouring cold water into a hot, very hot vessel. I realized my inner body was no different from an overheated car engine!

Ever since though I am particular about what I choose to experience or live with.

Do I always get to choose? No, definitely not but I do find myself staying clear of what feels not so positive whether it be people, places or just talk. And I can see that it is helping me experience life.

Perhaps I can just choose to do what I do more consciously.

Perhaps that is what it is to experience existence….

Perhaps it is not what I felt it was….

Again, I wouldn’t know much except that crisp morning air can work wonders 🙂

 

 

In the darkness of the night

In the darkness of the night

there is surely a breach of light

between the sighs and tears

there is surely a waiting smile

in the pain that holds down at your throat

a strength is emboldened

in the despair of fading hopes

new wishes sprout

in the darkness of the night

a ray of light shines

for did he not say

‘the wound is the place where the light enters you’

flooded so in light

even the pain is bright.

(remembering  rumi)