Whenever my parents come home to visit me, they carry a minimum of three bags loaded with goods with them. My persuasion and dissuasion to discontinue this practice does not sit well with either of them. So it continues and I am the happy recipient of many goodies like’ chakka varatiyathu’, ‘kondata mulakku’, ‘nadan pappadam’, ‘veetile thenga’, ‘nadan manga’- ripe and unripe, ‘masala biscut’, ‘karutha halwa’, ‘kariveppila- veetil undayathu, ‘drumsticks- veetilethu’, ‘vendakka-terracil undayathu’, ‘kattar vazha thayyu, ela- ennayundakkan,’ and more.
This is addition to the saree that amma and achan choice fully pick out from the Mriganayanee out let in Calicut, 2 to 3 bath towels or torthu mundu, kerala sari,bag to keep in the car, chocolates gifted to them by some one, a box of cashew nuts a friend gave them, a pair of dresses for my daughter, a stylish hand bag and more.
I know the list is long and you must think that I am like those daughters, the ones you must be seeing in those daily sops, whose endless demands for goods and goodies leave their parents hapless.
Hmm, I am guilty to some extent, as I actually used to tell my little daughter before starting off from Calicut to Indore, with an evil smile to pack off as much as she could, to just see my brother laugh his head off. It was fun to do that.
Years later, I unsuccessfully continue to implore my parents to travel light which they indeed do when they return to Calicut having placed all the treasured items in my home.
I don’t even know how my mother and father bring to fruition what I think of!
Once when I was in Calicut, I had looked at my certificates and sighed, ‘I should get these laminated, I guess, they are tearing off almost.’
While packing after almost a month’s stay at home, I was packing stuff when I was surprised and shocked to see all my certificates laminated, how did this happen, I thought when Achan said casually, ‘Oh, got it done one day!’.
After all this giving while going back, Amma says regretfully, ‘I wanted to bring the other sari too for you to wear to college’ and I am like ‘what???!’
Now while there is nothing I can do to return this outpouring of expression of love, all I manage to do is to plan a one-day outing with all of us. This they say with excess excitement,’was the best of experiences in a long time.’
I know all sons and daughters of Kerala will agree with me that it is a struggle to convince your parents that you really don’t need the coconuts as they are available every where, because the argument is ‘it cannot be as tasty as those from our land’. Finally I am sure, each one of us will be convinced to carry at least 5 of them back home.
My parents always make me wonder if I am as caring to my daughter. Do I pay as much attention to the smallest of details?
Maybe I will change for the better with time!
Till then, I know for sure that these two people are the most adorable, loving and kind souls that I know.