“While I as a south Indian will have my dinner, I will also keep the barter ready for the dosa for the next day’s breakfast”, quipped a friend. And that is what is called planning.
If you have have wishes unfulfilled, dreams not yet realized and if that frustrates you, then you should keep your barter ready for the tomorrow that comes your way.
So, let me ask you. What dreams have you? Become stinking rich, be powerful, enjoy fame and attention, possess a great physique, set a world record or get up early for that morning walk?
What ever your dreams be, whatever your wishes are, you need to start some where, some time soon, to work on getting them become real.
Say for instance, your dream is to found a great institution of learning. Then you should ask your self what have you done to actualize it?
Have you contacted a few school owners to understand how they went about setting up their schools?
Have you discussed with your friends to find out what is there expectation from a great place of learning?
Do you follow the latest regulations and reforms happening in the field?
Or at least have you thought about the best players in the market?
Do not waste your precious time to act by sitting on the fence.
Do not be afraid of failures.
Remember no body can take away your learning in the event of your failure.
Here’s what I learnt.
# Start somewhere, anywhere, but start.
Make your to do list, meet up with like-minded people, dream, write your idea down, talk about it with passion and enthusiasm and the universe helps you begin your journey towards your goal.
# Spend time visualizing you achieving your goal.
Sit back and dream. Yes live your dream in your dream. Live it out. Relish being where you want the way you want with who ever you want in your head. As Vivekananda said, ” Take up idea, make that idea your life- think of it, dream of it. Live on it” and the idea or the dream is a reality.
# Chunk your grand wish into small palatable pieces.
Break up your goal into tiny little tasks to be done on a daily basis. Let me tell you here, that it is my ambition to become a writer that got me to blogging. As I put up my blogs, I know I am getting there sooner or later. And it helps to know that I am getting better at writing by the day:-)
# Commit on a daily basis
Be committed to your goal by checking whether you are on track. The chunking of your larger goal is what you should help you to stay committed. Don’t forget to compliment yourself on doing it. May be you can go out with yourself to a movie or coffee date.
# Respect the fact that time is a limited commodity
When we realize that life and time itself is a limited commodity, our priorities become clearer and we do sort of start working towards them. For instance, if you are aiming to get on to that favorite television show of yours, your time is certainly running out. If you are planning to get fit and then look around for your partner, well, seriously, fitness is not something that deserves to be kept for another day.
# Stay focused but be relaxed
No journey to greatness can be made possible without the right mindset. Stay on track but enjoy your journey. Don’t get stressed out because your time in the sun is not right now. And don’t worry that some body else is basking in glory.
Believe me, your great time is on its way!
Here is to actualizing your dream, three cheers!
What are you waiting for?
Go, get going!!!
One cannot but think of how ‘woman’ , ‘relationships’, ‘love’ are treated with authenticity in a Mahesh Bhat film. Or is it the case with all the films of yesterday?
Arth explores values, relationships, expectations, feminism, glamour, greed and every possible aspect of human existence with an unparalleled intensity.
Pooja, a girl who grew up in an orphanage desires a stable home after her marriage. It is her dream. Pooja argues with her husband when he quits jobs and presses him for the realization of her dream, her own home.
While her husband played by Kulbhushan Kharbanda buys her a dream home and lavishes her with enough money to adorn it the way she wants, there is a catch to it.
The money he gave his wife was a price for his ensuing absence from her life, paid by his mistress, the famous actress, Kavitha essayed by Smitha Patil.
With the most acclaimed Indian actresses of the times, Shabana Azmi and Smitha Patil pitted against each other as the wife and the love interest of the man, Kulbushan Kharbanda, the story is set to intrigue and entice, with exceptional acting and great onscreen chemistry. Shabana’s waif like slim and slender appearance with clear skin and bright eyes is a treat to watch. In fact, it is her eyes that speak,emote and act in the movie.
When Pooja comes to know of the truth behind her husband’s actions, she vacates the house and moves into a hostel with just Rs. 2000 which she initially had with her. Pooja is comforted by the pleasant company of a Ghazal singer, Raj, who proposes to her.
Pooja’s maid whom she had often counselled and comforted is jailed for the murder of her husband. Pooja adopts the young girl and decides to bring her up as her own.
Pooja signs divorce papers for her husband Inder and even goes to Kavitha’s home to assure her that she was not going to topple their love life.
Inder, Pooja’s husband in the meanwhile has difficulty in his relationship with Kavitha who is insecure about Inder and Pooja.
Kavitha requests Inder to return to his wife.
When Inder returns Pooja expresses her unwillingness to accept him.
Pooja also declines Raj’s proposal to marry her.
She decides to spend the rest of her life with her maid’s daughter, now adopted by her.
I have always wondered at the As-You-Like-It-ness of love and life. You love someone, that someone loves another someone and it goes on….
The inability of one human being to find happiness in what he/she has can lead to endless confusions and trials in the lives of so many others.
But, it is one life, as they say, it is up to each one to decide what is that he/she wants from life.
In matters of love and living, nothing there is no absolutes in terms of right or wrong.
The movie has some excellent ghazals sung by Jagjeet Singh and Chithra Singh, my personal favourite being ..tum itna jo muskara rahe ho…kya gum hai jo chupa rahe ho…
Was it Shelley who said, our sweetest songs are those that sing of our saddest thoughts?!